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21 January 2014 @ 04:23 pm


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Liz
16 November 2012 @ 11:31 am
If anyone wants to send me a holiday card, here's my address:

Elizabeth Agresta
48-9 Wolbae-ro 28-gil Apt. 206
(137-13 Jincheon-dong)
Dalseo-gu, Daegu
South Korea
704-835

You can also try printing out the address in Korean if you're concerned it won't get to me:

Elizabeth Agresta
대한민국 대구광역시 달서구
월배로 28길 48-9 206호
(진천동 137-13)
704-835


(Bigger so it's easier to see, haha.)

And please leave your address if you'd like me to send you a letter/card/postcard! ^^ Comments are screened!
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mood: sleepysleepy
 
 
Liz
(I did see SNSD on a massive screen advertising LG phones in the airport this morning, though.)

Can't make myself actually sit down and write a normal post, so here's another list:

  • I'm okay.
  • I'm at orientation in Jeonju.
  • We did some sightseeing in Seoul yesterday, went to see the massive statue of King Sejong and Gyeongbokgung Palace. I took an assload of pictures but I'm too lazy to figure out how to get them off my iPod.
  • My food anxiety problems are rapidly becoming troublesome. I just want to go grocery shopping, jfc. I'm not digging this cafeteria thing at the university, I don't like feeling like people are watching me eat, and I'm bad at trying things I've never had before. It's not just that I'm a picky eater, it's that I have a legitimately horrible nervous response to trying new foods. I hate it. Why the fuck can't I just be normal? :/
  • Aside from that, I'm just trying to adjust. Honestly, I just want to start working. I don't like this whole orientation setup, it's making me feel like I'm back in college again, and I felt like an infant when I was 18 and I don't like regressing to that now.
  • Is it not completely evident by now that I'm a total control freak??? Just wondering.
  • My roommate, Cory, is really cool. I think we might be soulmates. She has the same sense of humor I have, and she likes Lord of the Rings and Tina Fey and brought this excellent card game called Cards Against Humanity, which is like Apples to Apples for horrible people. AND she's going to be in Daegu! (I swear to god, half this orientation group is going to Daegu. Every other person I've met is going to Daegu, rofl.)
  • I stayed with a bunch of nice British (and one Irish) people this weekend at Mint Guesthouse - Laura, Josh, Kevin, Sam, Rachel... and there's more. I swear to god, I spoke to maybe three Americans this weekend. I felt like the odd one out, being the only American in this group of people. Very weird feeling. But it was hilarious, they had me explain the shitstorm that is American politics and also that whole Chick-Fil-A fiasco. Basically everything that is weird and bad about the U.S. right now. Made for a fun bus ride today!
  • Obviously my flight over went okay... met up with Naomi and Sara beforehand, since our flight was delayed an hour, and we went for Mexican food and drinks. There was SO MUCH in-flight service on Singapore Air, it was crazy. Drinks all around, snacks, fucking ICE CREAM SANDWICH!?!?!? Amazing. Definitely recommend them.
  • Staying with my aunt was nice, although I was a complete basket case on Wednesday and was crying hysterically in the bathroom and in her bed while I was napping and barely ate anything. Saw a little bit of San Francisco but hoping to see more when I go home next year.
  • Today a nice Korean ahjussi carried a bit of my luggage down to the subway platform when we went to catch the AREX. Made getting back to the airport MUCH easier than getting to Mint. That trek was horrendous, I can't even think about it or I'll bust an artery in frustration.
  • Talked to my mom for 15 minutes on my janky little prepaid cellphone that my recruiters brought for me today at the airport. It was nice to hear her voice. I didn't cry, either!!! Liz: 1, Emotions: 0!!!


Pretty much it for now. I think I'm going to go to bed. Still trying to get over the jet lag. The ground feels like it's shaking around, which is usually a sign that I need sleep (post-travel). Don't worry about me, I'm just a mopey control freak. I'll be better once orientation's over and I can do grown-up things. Sigh.
 
 
mood: lonelylonely
 
 
Liz
I just read this article by Lisa Belkin at the Huffington Post and I find myself a little frustrated, I guess. She says that the rampant helicopter parenting and spoiling of children is just emblematic of a society that prizes getting to the top of the mountain first instead of learning how to be a functional adult. I guess in some ways that's true - everyone wants their kids to have more opportunities than they did, to surpass their legacy, whatever - but at what cost? I just think of the spoiled prep school brats I went to Trinity with who didn't know how to write a paper or do their own laundry or cook their own dinner because Mummy and Daddy took care of all of it for them. There are some things you just... have to know how to do. I don't get how you can send a legal adult to school without making sure he or she can take care of himself/herself.

Also, I have a real problem with child-centric parenting in general. I say this all the time, but instead of reading all those parenting books, people ought to pick up a copy of Kate Chopin's The Awakening. (If you haven't read it, you should - it's quite short and I think it's an absolutely necessary read.) You have to be a person before a parent. I don't think that's selfish. You can't be a good parent if you're falling apart all over the place and taking care of your kids before you look after your own health and sanity. This is something I worry about a lot, having anxiety and depression. I think that's why the book spoke to me in the first place. I don't want to pull an Edna someday! And I don't think spoiling the shit out of children helps them any more than it helps the parents. The last thing any mother needs is to be going into their retirement with their hopeless, unemployed 38-year-old son still living with her! (This is currently the situation at my aunt's house. It's really, really pathetic. Jesus Christ, Jeremy, go see a doctor, take some antidepressants, put down your Blackberry, and get a fucking job! I know it sounds heartless, but he's just a mean, miserable shit and he doesn't do anything about it.) They don't learn anything when you spoon-feed it to them, you know? Give a man a fish and you'll feed him for a day, teach him to fish and he'll leave you the fuck alone. SO ON AND SO FORTH.

I would guess that 98% of the problem is the whole instant gratification/gotta have it now/YOLO/FOMO/social media/electronics phenomenon. I watched this TED talk with canttakeabreath when she was visiting and it really struck a chord with me. I feel slightly less pathetic because I fully acknowledge that the internet was my refuge during a lot of turbulent periods of my life (my dad dying, my depressive period freshman year of college, being unemployed last summer), and because I've seen a therapist and all that, but there are a lot of people who don't and it's just sad. What bums me out the most about kids today is that they rely on toys and electronics and objects to bring them happiness and entertainment, but it's so cheap compared to falling into another world through books or playing pretend or writing or something actually created and not consumed. You take a cell phone away from a kid at one of my schools and it's like you cut their arm off or something. It's made them into boring people who can't function. My cousin got an iPod Touch for her 10th birthday; I didn't even have a cell phone with mobile internet until I turned 23 (much less a cell phone at all until I was 17). I played video games a lot as a kid, but I always liked the ones that had good stories and no guns. I would spend hours playing The Sims after my dad passed because I liked taking pictures of my Sims and making up stories about them. Some of them were a little twisted, but it was creative, at the very least. I spend hours playing Lord of the Rings Online, but only because I love Tolkien's legendarium so much that it thrills me to be a part of it in whatever way I can. (That sounds... super fucking lame, but whatever.) I don't know. Maybe I'm rationalizing. But I try to find substantive cultural or educational value in the media I participate in, without losing the ability to be a functional human being. I live with my mom, but I pay my own bills and cook dinner sometimes and do my own laundry and clean my room when it becomes unbearable. It's like having a roommate who pays for your health insurance, lmfao.

IN SHORT: No one is a special snowflake. Do your own damn laundry. And read this article, too.
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mood: contemplativecontemplative
 
 
 
Liz
Flist, I am so thankful for you, and especially grateful to those of you that posted such wonderful, encouraging comments in last night's entry. I will respond to you individually (sometime this weekend, if I'm not completely exhausted by Black Friday), but I just wanted to say that I appreciate you all so much and that you have made me feel less alone and sad on a holiday (at least in the U.S.) that, to me, is about love and togetherness. So thank you so, so much - every one of you on my flist - for all the times you have left me a thoughtful comment or made me laugh or geeked out with me about something I love. You are the reason I stick around on LJ, and I am glad I have done so for so many years. Thank you. ♥

In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I thought, since it's basically the gateway holiday to Christmas (for those of you who celebrate, anyway), that I would share all of my Christmas music!

An Alternative Christmas I & II, compiled by foreignthinks, Christmas 2008
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The Time-Life Treasury of Christmas & Three Random Songs
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An Assortment of Christmas Tunes
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Enjoy! ♥
 
 
mood: cheerfulholiday spirited
listening to: "2000 Miles," The Pretenders (in my head, weirdly)
 
 
Liz
04 October 2011 @ 02:45 pm
HOLIDAY CARDS 2011!!!


If you want me to send you a Christmas/Hanukkah/Kwanzaa/Winter Solstice/Other Winter Holiday card this year, please leave your name and mailing address in the comments, which are screened for your convenience and protection.

I'm getting the jump on this early this year because otherwise I know it'll take me 9000 years to do it and you won't get them until Valentine's Day, lmfao.

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find me: living room
mood: amusedamused
listening to: "Blue Tomorrow," Super Junior-M
 
 
Liz
... Or something to that extent.

Anyway. Anonymous meme. Consider it the Roast of hopeandmemory. Compliments are, of course, appreciated. But you can also take this opportunity to vent (tactfully, I hope) any frustrations you have with me. I will try to take them under advisement.

Cheers.

(I guess I have to keep this public to make it anonymous? IDK IDK IDK. If anyone has any tricks in that regard, feel free to pass them along.)
 
 
find me: SS/414S
mood: relaxedrelaxed
listening to: "Into the New World," SNSD